On abortion…

Another post I found in Tumblr…

This isn’t necessarily an argument for or against, everyone is entitled to their own position on a subject that is entirely personal.
My thought is – when it comes down to it, do any of us really know what we would do in this situation, until we are truly in it? and if anyone ever has to face this decision, wouldn’t you want the ability to make the choice for yourself, rather than it being decided for you?

– Mariel Clayton

Abortion Vs. Adoption

A post I read on tumblr. I def felt the need to re-post this here.


I wanted to touch briefly on this post, which Joe had an excellent response to. I just want to expand a little bit on the Abortion v. Adoption mentality that a lot of people have.

Adoption is not a direct alternative to abortion. It’s an alternative to parenthood. Abortion, at the most simple definition, is a form of birth control. By doing it, you prevent birth. Having an abortion in the first trimester (when 88% of them take place) is VERY different from continuing the pregnancy and giving the baby up for adoption.

People who argue, “Why don’t these women just stop being selfish and wait 9 months and give the baby up” are completely ignoring the physical, financial and mental tolls of pregnancy. It is NOT easy. If you work a minimum wage job, or don’t have sick days, you probably can’t afford to take time off because of morning sickness. If you don’t have healthcare, you can’t afford nine months of prenatal appointments. If your job doesn’t have paid maternity leave, you can’t afford to take time off to recover from the birth. (Even if you give the baby up for adoption, your body needs to physically recover, especially if you had a c-section or other complications.)

If you have complications and are required to go on bed rest… how would most young people afford that? How would you pay rent and bills and buy groceries if you had to stay off your feet for three months or longer? And if you already suffer from a chronic condition that requires medication, that medication may not be compatible with pregnancy, which means you’re asking a woman to sacrifice her own health for the better part of a year.

Demanding that women — primarily young, underprivileged women — go through pregnancy and birth so someone else can have a baby is kind of a lot to ask. Furthermore, the mental toll of giving up a child for adoption is immense. Not only do you have to go through the physical distress of labor, you don’t get to take home a baby afterward. And you have to explain your decision to family members and friends for the rest of your life. On the other hand, abortion is a private decision that has a relatively low chance of mental health complications.

Finally, there is no shortage of children waiting to be adopted. The most recent data I found suggests the number of children waiting to be adopted is close to 126,000. The truth is that most couples looking to adopt domestically (because don’t forget, there are countless thousands of children in orphanages around the world) want to adopt a white, healthy newborn. And it’s true: there is, in fact, a shortage of white newborns waiting to be adopted. But don’t pretend that people who get abortions are denying others the chance to be parents.

(source: http://www.stfuconservatives.net/post/7979844743)

Uter-I, Not Uter-US (via Space Cadet Blues)

I am so thankful for this post. I’ve been raped too and I know a friend who was raped by a family relative. But somehow,some people think that rape is something extremely rare, most of them are men who have never been raped.

I always swore I would not be a typical feminist. I swore by the pearls I inherited and the blue southern blood that runs through the veins that lay under my cardigan sweater that I would not become some emotional, liberal, democrat. I would stand by my conservative, republican Christan roots and oppose the silliness that is that lovely little play that congress seems to conduct on a regular basis these days. But things change. Things always chan … Read More

via Space Cadet Blues

My views on abortion

 “…But I don’t believe that I have a right to take what is an article of faith to me and legislate it to other people…”

The abortion procedure should be done on women who are 100% sure. If a woman who is having second-thoughts undergo an abortion, the chances she will regret it are high. Those are the woman who say that EVERY woman will regret it sooner or later. NO. The people who will regret it are those who did not reflected or thought deeply about the issue.

Abortion should be the rarest thing in the world.  But sadly, we women have uterus. Sadly for those who do not wish to have a pregnancy of course.  Now, I am pro-choice. No, I am not pro-abortion. You see, I think that a woman has a full right to make the final decision, whether she wants to continue with her pregnancy or not. The father’s opinion should be highly taken in consideration, but the final decision should be made by HER and no one should go beyond that final decision.

When Kyra, a girl whom I studied with since the 5th grade, found out she was pregnant, she went to the abortion clinic along with her boyfriend.  She sat down in the chair waiting to be attended. But then, she changed her opinion and decided to continue with her pregnancy. She got up, told her boyfriend and left. Her boyfriend, however, did all he could do so she could terminate her pregnancy. He threatened to kill her father and to hit her if she didn’t. But SHE made her final decision. That is a true victory for pro-choicers and I’m happy for her. Do you know all the psychological problems, all the trauma she could have been trough if she didn’t made her decision? No, you don’t.

Same thing happens when a woman decides to terminate her pregnancy. But what if the father wants the baby after she gives birth? Well if she’s okay with being 9 months pregnant and then giving away the baby to her father, perfect. But she needs to be sure. Now, what if she simply doesn’t wish to have a pregnancy? Should she be forced? Yes? Then why don’t we force girls like Kyra to terminate her pregnancy against their will? Do you know all the psychological problems a woman can suffer if she is forced to continue with a pregnancy against her will? Probably not.

Now, I’ve been getting replies that says  that “a life is a life no matter what happens ” and how we should protect it. Well I’m 99% sure they didn’t say that when they heard the US killed Osama. That’s how hypocrite we can be.